Recently, I was sitting amongst a group of thrifty friends discussing financial independence (FI) and how important it was to each of us. Some of the discussion was around the definition of FI, and I learned that the definition of FI differs from person to person. Some of the discussion was around dates and amounts of money needed to meet FI. Most of the discussion focused on how important FI was to the group. After about an hour or so of discussion, it occurred to me that FI was the only topic we discussed. There was no discussion of life goals (beyond FI), family, friends, work, sports (Go Astros!) or recent adventures. I found that a bit interesting. On the one hand, FI was a central theme to everyone there. That’s no surprise. Clearly, FI was a top goal for each of us. But on the other hand, is that all there is to our interests and pursuits? Don’t get me wrong, the conversations were interesting and spirited. I really enjoyed it. But it left me asking: Is there more to our lives and our friendship than financial independence?
Which precipitated the topic question in this post: Does financial independence define our lives or does it enrich our lives with the freedom to pursue the goals and dreams in our hearts?
Financial independence: What Is It?
Financial independence (FI) is a term often used without consistent meaning. Typically, FI means having enough income to pay your living expenses for the rest of your life without having to work full time or be dependent on others. It also usually includes being free from debt, worry and anxiety about money. Some simplify the definition and see it as simply being self-sufficient. While each person might define it differently, it was obvious that FI was the primary focus for each of us. But in this particular conversation, FI was the only thing being discussed. Aren’t we more than the pursuit of financial independence?
A Case For FI To Define Us
Starting with a little help from Webster’s Dictionary, being defined by financial independence means to be described or identified with the nature or essential qualities of financial independence. In this case, that means, identified as being frugal (living below their means), having ample income outside of a regular full time job to meet all money needs, dependent on no one other than themselves, free of debt, free of worry and free to pursue one’s goals or dreams. Sounds worthwhile so far!
People pursuing financial independence are passionate people in their pursuit. Usually focused, committed and goal orientated, or obsessed. Saving and investing, combined with the magic of compound interest, is intoxicating and satisfying. Each goal met just increases the desire for the next FI milestone. In addition, FI can be viewed as a great way to provide or support your family, so it is easily perceived as honorable, wholesome and worthwhile. Still sounds pretty good to be defined by our pursuit of FI!
Sometimes, it helps to find answers by looking backward on life decisions, so it begs the question: On my deathbed, will I be satisfied that my life was worthwhile and all that it could or should be if I defined success as being financially independent? Does my pursuit and ultimate achievement of financial independence completely define me and my purpose on earth? This view of the topic question starts to shed doubt in my mind that FI should define us because it seems too narrow. Why? Because it seems to me that life should be so much more. I can’t image my tombstone saying something like “Here lies Mike, who pursued and achieved financial independence.” I’ve never seen one of those tombstones. But I have seen tombstones that have listed many other attributes to define the deceased: father, husband, Christ-follower, man of integrity, leader, brother and son, to name a few. This leads me to believe there is more to life than just being financially independent.
A Case For FI To Enrich Our Lives
There is no doubt that money is absolutely necessary to live and the more you have of it, the more freedom, and choices, you have. So having money is very important. And making or getting money independent of full time work is extremely desirable. But money and financial independence do not define us, but enhance our lives and the possibilities.
Money is just a tool for us to use to meet our goals and obligations. Whether those goals are to raise a family, travel, buy a home or eat dinner, money is just a mechanism to achieve those goals. So to define ourselves by being able to meet those needs, independent of full time work or any dependence on anyone else, seems to be too limiting. I’m not defined by other tools that I have, like a computer, a hammer or a pencil, so why would I be defined by the tool of money independently obtained from full time work?
Means To An End
We are so much more than our money or possessions. Which means that we are so much more than our pursuit and achievement of being financially independent. We are (in my case) a husband, father, Christ-follower, businessman, leader, neighbor, friend, a brother, an uncle, a son, travelers and so much more. The financial independence we pursue is a better way to be all those things. But FI doesn’t define us. To let FI define us is to sell ourselves short. The faster we get to FI, the better, because we can spend more time doing what we want or are called to do, and less time working full time to make money. So financial independence enhances our lives. It does not define us.
So, going back to that conversation that started of this post: There’s nothing wrong with talking about something you are passionate about, like financial independence. And having deep conversations with friends and family about FI is encouraging, invigorating and informative. But since money is just a tool and being independent of full time employment is just a better means of making it, it stands to reason that financial independence is simply a means to an end. A means to achieve one’s goals in the best possible way. A means to freedom.